A Thread is Not Enough
Permission for consent, authenticity, and movement through and beyond the freeze from fear into truths to create the community we seek.
Community has the possibility to become durable with space for authenticity, truth, individuality, diversity, conflict, self accountability, and repair. It cannot sustain if there is codependency or significant power dynamics taking the lead. Community with longevity needs spaciousness from the weights of capitalism, control, and rigidity driven by judgement, fear, or insecurities. And it will become unstable if the only, or core bond is an activity or event that dissolves with time.
Community needs room to breathe. It needs open air to create with and through curiosity, rest, delegation, and play. Community is one of the most significant ways we can express our humanness and hold one another in tenderness, accountability, and abundance over and over again.
Rope is what brought me into kink publically. It’s what lead me to seek exploring “community” in ways I had not before. Similar to safety, I’ve discovered that the sense of community is self determined, variable, malleable, and dependent upon the people, space, and details of any given moment in time. It is cultivated with from a dedication to curiosity, care, and intentionality built over time. It requires a persistence of reciprocity founded on the pulse of common purpose. A dedication to choosing to witness + hold space for the coexistence of beauty and imperfections in connection.
Self Reflections:
People, spaces, stories, intimacy, healing, connection, and liberation are important to me. Presence with myself - and existence - through my relating to the things outside of me helps me understand the wholeness of the human experience more. I find that the greatest ways for me to gain understanding, compassion, peace, and a sense of freedom is through commitment to creation + release. I do this frequently through written words, art, and photography. And I’ve been learning how to transform and translate this through expressions, sensations, and collaborations with my body through rope, kink, breath, and movement. Steadily, I am gaining bravery, strength, and evolution in the language that exists for me through these dedicated practices that expand my body-heart-soul-mind.
Digital media and connecting with crowds took me on a detour. Showed me parts of myself I had not explored quite yet. Surfaced fun + a sense of freedom in feelings safety in openly exploring with others. Gave spaciousness for pleasure, play, and in ways distracted me from diving deeper into what my spirit was asking to be revealed for a moment in time.
The truth is that I seek community in a specific way: I long to build spaciousness for individuals to evolve with agency collectively. And in this, I also know that the depth of community I envision is not existing in full formation in the environments of this every day world. It is something that is in parts buried deep within me. And in pieces is lying dormant within many of you.
Community as we long for it to be is going to require more truth.
This summer I will be exploring sharing. My stories. With spaciousness for allowing. Myself to be seen. Releasing through creation to become more connected to the wisdom that lies within me. Surrender to imperfection. And the formation of a medicine in the ways I was designed to make it - through modeling + mirroring authentically what I feel, see, and believe. With the decision to “self-expose-through-self-expression” I’d like to begin this adventure with an agreement of authenticity + consent in this open space. I want to practice safety, care, and responsibility for holding the abundance of what connectivity has the possibility to evoke within each of us.
Agreement of Consent + Authenticity in Connection and Creativity:
The things I share here are my stories, opinions, experiences, reflections, studies, and ponderings, unless explicitly stated otherwise. So this means that what you have access to receive in parts holds truths for me and is not specifically designed to be interpreted as fact, but rather, in the sharing of my truths may support the surfacing of truths of your own. This may provide spaciousness for you to feel. It may activate emotions, sensations, or possibilities to process things that have been deeply suppressed, repressed, avoided, or hidden within you. It may feel big. It may challenge you to change. And it may challenge you to move away from this space if you desire to remain the same. It may also inspire you to dive deeper in. To create, release, lean in, open up, explore, express, experience, let go, transform, and/or become.
My mission is to get free.
To invite you along this journey with me.
To give you permission to witness me in the unfolding of myself.
And to give you a space of inspiration for the change that you deeply seek.
May this place be one that brings you closer to yourself.
And through this, may it be a space that you can understand + grow what it is to feel safe to exist as your most authentic, expressed, vibrant, and autonomous self. May it empower you to uncover, discover, and cultivate the community, connections, and liberation that you most deeply seek.
Upcoming offerings, available for you:
If you need to be heard, held, or witnessed, come take up the space you need.
Private sessions + Mentorships for intimacy, kink + healing
Confidence in Intimacy + Kink Private Group series
Meet me in the Zoom Sanctuary for HELD a bi-weekly community circle (details coming soon)
Resources to explore + go deeper on your own timing.
Self Paced Study (Articles, courses + labs - coming in June)
Tune into the Sensory Playspace Podcast (season 2 starts next week on Spotify, Substack + Apple!)
For those who journey. I’ll meet you back here soon.